Good evening friends and family…
For all the families that have been affected this last few weeks or so by Loss of loved ones. 💜😔
There are no words for the times in this life when heavy hearts are shared. There are not many ways to say, “I am so very sorry for your loss”, not that the loss was because of anything done in error or against someone – like most apologies are said for.
No. This apology is used to express your sympathy and understanding – compassion and love – empathetic sadness and heartache. It’s a way to show someone that you care.
Sometimes the world has a way of changing the meaning of things that are meant to express love and kindness and mutual respect- such as an apology like this. For example, the world can change a sincere, heart felt gesture to be something seen as a “weakness” or an “insult”….or “unneeded”. An apology is not a weakness. It is not an insult to be offended by. It is not something this world does not need. On the contrary, the people walking around in this broken and fallen world need as much deep sincerity as can be given!
Loss is always difficult – no matter what kind of loss that is experienced – there is a whole piece of our lives that changes, as a result. Healing of some caliber will come….but it may not fill the void that is left. Voids are difficult to fathom, when you have none to speak of. However, Oh My! When you do have one….or a lot to speak of….Dear Lord, stay on my speed dial, please!
Hearing someone say “I’m Sorry” May not fix things, but it does give someone support during a loss. Even the thought behind someone actually stopping whatever they may be doing….intentionally shifting their thoughts to you and saying “I am so sorry that you are going through this, I may not understand; but I know I can just be here with you for a while.” The effort it takes to demonstrate Love for someone to clearly communicate that they are cared about and appreciated, loved and that they matter to you is not a huge effort at all. However, it speaks volumes to the party on the receiving end. Most importantly it communicates that whatever else is going on is just that – something else going on. It communicates that the person going through the loss is important and valued, their heart matters to you more than all the rest of the stuff going on within that very same moment in time, and you are willing to put yourself and everything about you on pause – just to be there, just to be still with that person, just to be actively present and attentive to their needs…in the moment of their times of need.
Supporting one another & letting each other know you care through active, intentional presence is sometimes all we can do in life. This is, mainly, because any type of work in their situations can only come from God, alone. Praying with someone without trying to spell out some master plan of our own and just inviting God’s presence into those moments is even more fruitful and full of healing. But Oh! The gesture to do so and just be there for someone else, even if their loss or pain or heartache or struggle makes absolutely no sense to you. Its not about you. And That is what it means to demonstrate love the way God demonstrates His Love for us – in Agape form.
Hold those close you have now – pray for those hurting – show people you care – Do not hesitate to give your friends and family the caliber of love they deserve
………the same caliber of love that you deserve too. The Agape Love demonstrated by the Father intentionally, actively, consistently shows us what it looks like to truly love Him with all your heart, all your mind, all your body(strength), and all your soul and to love others as yourself.
ROMANS 5:1-11 (NASB)
Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; 4 and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; 5 and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
6 For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For one will hardly die for a righteous man; though perhaps for the good man someone would dare even to die. 8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. 9 Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him. 10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. 11 And not only this, but we also exult in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation.