For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands, for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.~2 Timothy 1:6-7 ESV
Have you ever wondered about
Why you do what it is you do?
Have you ever just straight-up asked yourself,
“Self, Why do you do that?”
Whether it is just a question that only concerns something simple, or a very blunt, direct question about something far more deeper and difficult to address – when you begin asking yourself this caliber of question you open a door that allows you to take more control of Y-O-U.
So, for instance, asking yourself Why you respond with sarcasm or humor when someone asks you a serious question…Or Why you felt the need to want to punch that dude in the face, although you didn’t – Why did You REEEEALLLLLY wanted to…
“Why” can be one of the most difficult question that we have in this life to ourselves.
I believe it is around the age of 3 or 4 that children begin asking this very same question. They ask the “Why” question because their little minds are seeking understanding and truth about something that they are curious about or would like to learn more about. This child-like perspective is a terrific way to look at the question of “Why”!!!
We ask WHY to seek understanding and truth to learn more about ourselves.
For Example: Mommy/Daddy, Why do people get sick?
Because, Honey, sometimes our bodies cannot fight off a virus and we get sick.
But Why can’t it fight off a virus – and what is a virus?
Because, Honey, sometimes bodies are not as strong as they need to be. A virus is a small, small thing that you can’t see that makes you sick.
But I drink milk and that makes me strong – Why did I get sick?
Because, Honey, milk makes your body strong in some places, but not all of them that the tiny virus you can’t see makes sick.
But if it is so tiny, Why am I so sick? How can a tiny thing make me throw-up so badly?!!?
Because, Honey, sometimes things that are tiny are really super strong and can even makes our tummies hurt, just like yours.
But I don’t understand Why Sally didn’t get sick and I did. I am way ‘more stronger’ than she is!
Because, Honey, we are not all made the same. Some of us get sick easier than others do.
But Why are we not all made the same? I am a kid, she is a kid…we both have arms and legs and feet and a nose and all this stuff the same. Why are we different?
Because, Honey, ………etc., etc., etc.
Do you get the picture yet?
A child will continue on with ‘Why’ questions until they come to the level of understanding that they would like to be at, personally. However, Some children will continue and continue and continue. I call them Little Sponges.
Regardless, they want to know Why things are the way they are. A desire to learn and grow is essential for our walk with God – it is how He draws us closer to Him and how we get to Know Him more. Just as Paul says in his letter to the Philippians:
Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith– that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.Philippians 3:8-11 ESV
Sometimes, as adults, we lose the desire to want to know, like the curious child in our example does.
We also, as adults, sometimes find ourselves doing things that may or may not fall in line with how we would like to be, as a person. When those moments happen, especially if they are things that hurt others or affect others in a negative way, it is nice to know we can figure out the reason behind the action simply by asking a one-worded question to ourselves:
So, Today, take a moment and do a little self-reflection, or literally look yourself in the eyes in a mirror and ask yourself if there are any choices you have been routinely making in actions or words that you would like to Not continue doing.
“Why do I do that?”
Continue asking yourself this question after each response until you get to the level of understanding you would like to be at So that you may address it and correct it. Do as our “Why” child would and continue to seek the depth of knowledge you need to get to so you may find the root of the choice(s).
Self-Awareness is what this is called, my friend. The more self-aware we are, the easier it is to correct bad habits, negative behaviors, or just plain-ole little things we don’t want to continue doing anymore. For example, like saying a bad word in front of a child or elder; or not remembering to say ‘Please’ & ‘Thank You’ to people you interact with daily. It doesn’t have to be complicated – You just have to have a desire to change something – and then……
Do something about it with God helping you to learn and grow in the knowledge of Jesus Christ and what it looks like to walk like He did.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit. Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.
Galatians 5:22-26 NASB